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Reality

Don Juan
posted 09-20-2001 11:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Reality   Click Here to Email Reality     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
OK, the subject of romance is enough to make any guy wanna tear his hair out. I will give you my definition. Romance=Seduction. That's it-when a woman tells you she wants to be romanced, she's telling you she wants to be seduced. Any woman, even the one you "caught" does not want the pursuit to end. She still wants to be pursued. Women, I must confess myself included, love attention. We thrive on it-we live by it-it is our nature. While not the right thing to do and sometimes self-destructive, we tend to perceive who we are as a person based on the attention we get from others both male and female alike. It is difficult to understand women, because for one thing, we don't even understand ourselves half the time. Yet, you ask a woman what she really wants in a loving relationship and I will almost guarantee you she will say "a man who understands me". Phftt! So why are women like this? Insecurity! Even the most beautiful of women have to deal with this. We are programmed from birth to fill this mold of being the "perfect" woman according to society's standards. Instead of accepting ourselves as we are, we compete heavily with each other and put on the facade of who we think others want us to be. We want approval, we ant to belong, we want to be wanted. But mind you, in molding ourselves into the image we assume others want, we also never are truly happy and content because we always know that this "fake" person is not who we really are on the inside. Thus, the insecurity, jealousy, paranoia. Being naturally very emotional creatures, many of the pressures in society to "conform" can make us go wacko at times. :nacko: :nacko:

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Paradox

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posted 09-20-2001 02:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Paradox   Click Here to Email Paradox     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moved to 'Tips'

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DJ Monk

Don Juan
posted 09-20-2001 06:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DJ Monk     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving oneself, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance." --Oscar Wilde

DJ Monk

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improvingdonjuan

Master Don Juan
posted 09-21-2001 12:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for improvingdonjuan   Click Here to Email improvingdonjuan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
great post!!!!!!! are you sure you are a girl and if you are your husband is really lucky to have you.

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Confidence is the key to women

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Jazzman

Master Don Juan
posted 09-21-2001 01:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jazzman     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What is romance? Once someone asked Louis Armstrong what jazz was. He said if you have to ask, you'll never know. I'm not that mean. I seriously doubt I can answer this for you but try I will.

First you'll have to change your perspective for a minute. Women in other countrys aren't asking what romance is. You see they know. I believe this is because they don't live under a deluge of feminista propaganda like we do.

You're not a welder, an ironworker, a diesel mechanic or any other feminista craziness.

For this moment you are a woman, just a natural women, free from political agendas,
the artless rush of this time in history, free from any expectation of sisterhoods or anyone else.

Late at night with my ex feminista girlfriend. Some date! For hours I had been enduring her feminista rhetoric while I was always the gentleman....

Beautiful moonlight, perfect night, by the water, and I hit the limit of my endurance for hearing about some souless version of "relationships"

Enough of this, I hit the stops. Explained to her that I didn't appreciate what I call the "r" word.(relationship) You see relationship is a technical term and should never be applied to people. A gear turns this way, or that depending on the relationship of the driving gear etc., The moon moves in an eliptical orbit in relationship to the earth. I have a relationship with the electric company. If I don't pay they shut off the power!

I have romances with beautiful women. Things that can only be understood and spoken of by the heart. And only her heart. She is not my significant other, she is my beloved and I invite her to the hearts dance knowing the dizzy delight she will know at the prospect that some one loves her. Finally someone she loves loves her in return!

And in that moment when their lips touch, the man becomes magically better than he is, and in kissing the Prince, the Princess is set free. Always set free from an evil spell, a bewitched apple given to her by a hag.

They look into each others eyes and see wonders they never dreamed of, because they have been transformed by the oldest magic on earth.

After I explained this to her I told her to kiss me. My hearts intent was to knock her socks off(which I did), but the kicker is that she captured me with that kiss. And I'm convinced to this day that the whole thing was a set up. Oh no, not by her , but by a love far above and beyond us.

It is the hag, in the form of feministas that have put so many women in an evil spell where they don't believe in the magic of love.

And whats a Prince to do? When she "knows" that men only want one thing.... where is there room for love, and how could romance do anything but wither and die in the cold black emptiness of distrust?

I have endured manhating women all my life. Women who's hearts are dark because of their arrogance and distrust.... and unaware of the utter lifelessness of their spirits pronounce men as evil. They say the Prince never came to them. He did, but these women didn't believe in love. They only believed in sex. And that is what they got. Arrogant fools that they are they never consider that the problem lies in their hearts, their cold, dark, calculating and distrustful hearts.

My hope for you dear is that someday your Prince will come. Of that I have no doubt. My hopes are that the light of his love will bring springtime to your delicate heart, and you will be able to tell your daughters what romance is.

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BigBill

Master Don Juan
posted 09-21-2001 04:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BigBill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ouch Jazzman.

That one hurt all the way over here. I wish every woman could read what you just wrote. Fantastic!

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Reality

Don Juan
posted 09-21-2001 12:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Reality   Click Here to Email Reality     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Improving: yes I am a woman, and yes, my husband is lucky but so am I. It is easy to find love, harder to make it last.
Jazz: Kudos! "My hat is off" to you. Your eloquent post not only captured the spirit of love, but of romance as well. Please do not mistake me in thinking I meant romance meant "sex", quite the contrary. The art of seduction is what makes the heart beat faster, the breath quicken in pace and the beads of sweat to break out on your forehead. It is the chase, the magical aura of illusion and mystery, the thrill and excitement of being daring...this is what I refer to romance. One can just as likely "romance" someone they don't love as well as someone they do love. Most will think "romance" to be in the form of material things, flowers, candy, moonlight dinners,etc...These things are simply the physical reasoning behind romance-a channel for romance. It is the underlying force behind such actions that define "romance". It is the myriad of feelings behind the actions-the feeling of knowing someone cares, the intamacy of the gestures, the giving and receiving of both parties, the thrill of not only being "pursued" but being the "prey" as well. It is a ritual as old as time itself. It is the art of seduction, it is "romance".
I really enjoyed your insightful piece-are you perchance a writer?

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Turbobird

Master Don Juan
posted 12-15-2001 01:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Turbobird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting. I just wanted to bump this in case someone have not read it...

/Turbobird

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