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Topic: Kill that desperation!
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Master Don Juan
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posted 05-24-2001 12:52 AM
BluepaulThere was a girl at a grocery store who was riding around with her cart, cute as can be, filled with products (rejected items) to be put on the shelf. "Hey! Are you reverse shopping!?" Silly, but she laughed and I was in. Or another time I just saw a chick I liked and threw a kid's ball at her. Unexpected. Playful. She liked it. IQ Sure, women want attention and they'll latch onto whomever gives it to them (like da Nice Guy: the emotional tampon to be used and discarded). But one thing I hear over and over again is this: the sexiest thing a guy can do is listen. Women may enjoy laughing thanks to the comedian or amazement thanks to the Worldly Guy but they will trade that for someone who LISTENS to them. By listening, I don't mean being quiet while she flaps her gums waiting for your turn to speak. I mean LISTENING to what she is saying, processing it, and understanding her. Most guys don't do this. Be a guy that does. It makes you RARE. As my older brother was at dinner with his girlfriend's parents, his mother exclaims, "OH MY GOODNESS! You (referring to her daughter)... you got a guy that LISTENS." Certainly you should show who you are, your own individuality, etc. But too often most guys tend to do this TOO MUCH. It's easier to speak about yourself then it is to listen. So focus on listening and the rest attends to itself, for you'll naturally speak of yourself and your accomplishments. Most guys think: "I am incredible. I have only a limited time so I must express my incredibleness to her so she will understand and love me." No, don't focus on illustrating yourself. Focus on getting to know HER. Not only is she pleased and happy, but you are finding out if she is GOOD for you. YOU are conducting the interview. If you talked about yourself, you would not have any more information if she is right for you. Daneb Imagine if a Hot Chick appears before Average Guy. Average Guy goes, "Whoa!" Then Average Guy becomes excited, energized, and electrified as he starts chatting with the Hot Chick. What does Average Guy say? Let him speak for himself: "My car goes vroom vroom to 150 mph!" "...and so the bartender goes, 'I thought it was your wife'. HA HA. I am SO funny!" "I hate players who treat women badly. I am sensative. BOO HOO!" "Yo baby! Why don't you sit on my lap and see what pops up?" But I sense you saying, "You exaggerate." But do you not treat these Hot Chicks differently from regular people? When I say, "Think of the hot and steamy chick as a guy," I don't mean to not show your sexuality. Let me place a Desperate Dude in front of me for purpose of conversation. "Desperate Dude, do you disagree with guys?" "But of course." "Do you disagree with Hot Chicks?" "Only after a long train of abuses and neglect." "But you are tough and have large muscles. You would not put up with crud from any guy?" "Of course not." "But what about Hot Chicks?" "..." "I have heard that you are a brilliant conversationalist." "That is most certainly the case." "And you can talk with guys with ease." "Absolutely." "And you can talk with Hot Chicks with the same ease." "No, I tend to get tongue tied and extremely self conscious." "But why is this? You are a brilliant conversationalist." "Because... they are hot." If Desperate Dude thought of the Hot Chicks as merely guys, his DESPERATION would evaporate. All of a sudden, Desperate Dude would become a brilliant conversationalist and would not take any abuse from a female. Why is this? "It is magic, Pook." No, it is not magic. It is because his DESIRE has been tempered and contained. His desire is not lashing out in desperate spasms and creating embarrassing moments for him. He will no longer write poetry to her before dating her, no longer send in flowers before talking to her, and no longer give her gifts before he's even gone out with her. Cage that desire! Place it behind the bars of Don Juan Truths. How are you going to alter her emotions favorably if you cannot even handle your own? ------------------ Pook "As you think, you shall become." "Men will be nice when nice guys get laid." IP: 209.176.38.146 |
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posted 05-24-2001 01:28 AM
Pook,I absolutely agree with you on the listening part. Problem is that if you show that you are a good listener and remember every little detail about her she will think you are totally focused on her and as soon as your attention divert to someone else she may try to get rid of you as you have given her the sense that she is the center of your attention. Its almost the case of a sensitive nice guy who is used by women. The best trick would be to not show much sensitivity, dont always be agreeable to her and sometimes fake that you dont remember the details of her previous convo or specific details about her. Also, another good way is to change your attention span. Talk to her one day for so long, next time talk to her for less time and also talk to other people including other girls in front of her. That will be a good way to avoid falling into the nice guy trap. Of course, some women can become very jealous or upset but then you will find out that they are controlling women which is good for you. I also agree with you on treating the girls like guys as they will know that you wont take any crap from women, only thing that should be included is good convo, and little bit of charm on some occassions because the charm will let her know that you know she is the opposite sex . IQ. IP: 206.172.121.189 |
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posted 05-27-2001 01:39 AM
Hi,I have one more question for Pook. During the conversation, should a guy ask questions about her emotions, feelings, her relationships, what she looks for in a guy, her fantasies, etc and try to elicit her core values. If you are living the role of an ideal man, the real man dont talk about love, feelings and relationships. This will make the convo too heavy. If you wanna keep it fun then talk about her life, family, her choices etc. Like you said, if you love them show by your actions, dont tell them. Also, doing fun things together, kino and kissing will make her feel romantic with you. The eliciting value technic probably would work for players because their purpose is to get laid but for LTR its good to demonstrate the alpha male (fun guy) approach. Please, clarify on the convo topics. Also, how should we avoid falling in the sensitive nice guy trap when using good listening. IQ IP: 206.172.121.78 |
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posted 05-27-2001 12:00 PM
Hi,Another question is should we talk to her about her sexual preferences, what would she do to seduce her dream men, her top favourite sexual positions, talking to her about other's sex life (not our sex life), is it a good idea to do or just to keep a mystery on this topic and just make your moves. I think it would be a good idea to know what she likes but we should find it out in a round about way without talking about how it makes her feel and talking to her about her feelings. IQ. IP: 206.172.121.112 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 09-19-2001 08:55 AM
Ok....this absoultely stunnin....but i wanna tell u somethin Mr.Pook , what if u find the gal u've been searchin for all ur life-time?? u r always cheerin me up with ur posts but it's kind of tough to find the woman u want n kill ur desire when ur havin fun with her ...plush hey did u read the article by Red x-l sayin that unfulfillness of desires is the root to insecurity??!! so how can a person kill his desire...if this is the case ..why r we goin after gals?? isn't cz we desire them!!IP: 62.114.160.166 |
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posted 12-03-2001 05:24 AM
Now, I know what you're thinking, "Pook, I can't act like a Prince Charming or The Great Catch. I DON'T have tons of women after me." This is reversing CAUSE and EFFECT. ASSUME you are the Great Catch, THINK that you are, and as you think you shall become. It becomes a self-fullfilling prophecy. this by far is my problem cz plenty of times especially when the results im gettin r negative . i try to think n believe that im the catch but i couldn't . sometimes it's hard n tough isn't it? pook , when this happenes i keep dwellin on the past , depressed , desperate again though i know the answer to remove that desperation ofcourse u've felt like this before pook . what have u done especially when ur just on the verge to see ur date or the gal u wanna get to know for me i get nervous &.... this what happenes. Bad Pook: "Wowza! She is HOT! I hope I look and act all right! I really really hope I don't do anything stupid or dumb tonight." so is it really true that when ur state of a mind is negative or a strange negative thought enters suddnelly u stubmble?! cz sometimes it's just that ur insecure , right? is that as u think . u shall become principle that fatal??! -Expect success! (Nice guys are often pessimistic and their failures are mostly a result of self-fullfilling prophecy. Some guys, which I confess I am one, actually fear success. We think, "If I ask her out and she says yes, THEN what?" Since we don't want or fear Step 5, we opt out on Step 1 and create our own failures for us. Stop it u haven't said how to stop that cz plenty of times i can't stop thinkin of the future and how could i manage to get her ? especially if at the current time her personality is better than me (super-model , plenty of guys r after her etc.., know lots of friends , hang out more n visit great places etc..) do u go with that principle ( u can't jump to the second base .. while ur clingin to the first Or inch inch it's a cinch by yard it's too hard ) cz this sometimes doesn't work for me . i hope that u read this Master pook n give me ur thoughts or anybody else but i prefer pook in personal . i wanna know at which status i am from djin .. i used to get numbers pretty easy , hang out alot with chicks , charmin etc... but now i can't tell that i mnot like the one i used to be cz when i am at the right mind-set i could perform the homework as i used to , IP: 212.12.228.145 |
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posted 12-03-2001 06:49 PM
till pook returns ....is there anybody here who can give me his thoughts n experiences about that???! i hope so 
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posted 12-06-2001 04:33 AM
why don't ya answer me ppl???!IP: 62.114.161.42 |
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posted 12-13-2001 12:05 PM
so hey pook  do i have to bring ur post up till u read it??
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posted 12-15-2001 06:37 PM
Now, I know what you're thinking, "Pook, I can't act like a Prince Charming or The Great Catch. I DON'T have tons of women after me." This is reversing CAUSE and EFFECT. ASSUME you are the Great Catch, THINK that you are, and as you think you shall become. It becomes a self-fullfilling prophecy.this by far is my problem cz plenty of times especially when the results im gettin r negative . i try to think n believe that im the catch but i couldn't . sometimes it's hard n tough isn't it? pook , when this happenes i keep dwellin on the past , depressed , desperate again though i know the answer to remove that desperation ofcourse u've felt like this before pook . what have u done especially when ur just on the verge to see ur date or the gal u wanna get to know for me i get nervous &.... this what happenes. Bad Pook: "Wowza! She is HOT! I hope I look and act all right! I really really hope I don't do anything stupid or dumb tonight." Why are you dwelling into the past? There are no girls in the past. Pook opens the door labeled P-A-S-T and shouts, "Any girls in there!?" Nope, no answer. Rather, they are all in the Future. Forget about the Past. The only time I think about Nice Guy days is when I'm on this forum. The only reason there is so I can relate things to Nice Guys. How I thought then versus how I think now. So you're getting negative results and you're feeling down about it. Do this: Take a break from women. For a month or so, just envelope yourself in your passion, your hobbies, your career, whatever. Why? Because the FOCUS is YOUR happiness. It is true that if you think you are the Great Catch, you become so. But it requires more than thinking. Action is necessary. I can sit and tell myself how awesome I am. Alas, I do walk out the door a Superman. Rather, I make my vision of myself become true. Slowly and steadily, I began doing more athletics, improving my wardrobe, and so on. I didn't even realize I was doing it. My friends commented on the change. I just felt that the 'improvement' was simply natural. I've asked older women (who knew me before) what they thought of my change from Nice Guy to Don Juan, from Shy Guy to Cool Guy. Their response: "You've grown up." Grown up!? See? Men see Nice Guys and Don Juans. Women instead see Child-hood and Manhood. I can't stress self-improvement enough. Thinking you're the Great Catch does, indeed, help de-toxify the Nice Guyness out of your system. You've improved yourself massively in that department. Why stop there? Not being Nice Guy is not enough. Being a Man is all. so is it really true that when ur state of a mind is negative or a strange negative thought enters suddnelly u stubmble?! cz sometimes it's just that ur insecure , right? is that as u think . u shall become principle that fatal??! -Expect success! (Nice guys are often pessimistic and their failures are mostly a result of self-fullfilling prophecy. Some guys, which I confess I am one, actually fear success. We think, "If I ask her out and she says yes, THEN what?" Since we don't want or fear Step 5, we opt out on Step 1 and create our own failures for us. Stop it u haven't said how to stop that cz plenty of times i can't stop thinkin of the future and how could i manage to get her ? especially if at the current time her personality is better than me (super-model , plenty of guys r after her etc.., know lots of friends , hang out more n visit great places etc..) do u go with that principle ( u can't jump to the second base .. while ur clingin to the first Or inch inch it's a cinch by yard it's too hard ) cz this sometimes doesn't work for me . You may be putting too much emphasis on this one woman. Go after other girls. Girls want what other girls want. If you get a negative or neutral vibe from one girl, just go for others. When they respond favorably to you and the previous girl sees it, then she too begins to think of you favoritively. You've said that she has a better personality than you. This is a big clue for me. It implies that she may be more outgoing, more willing to meet new people, etc. There is much written here on physical improvement. An entire forum is dedicated to working out. I wish there was emphasis on social improvement along with social work-outs. When I'm on the Don Juan Chat, I hear the following: "Speak to her!? But if I speak to her, why should I say?" "If she gives me her number, what should we discuss?" "But if I ask her out, what should we do?" I was like the above. I was shy, quiet, kept to myself. Nature, however, has the last say. I very much desired a woman, particular women. How to go about it? Picture a frozen guy, shaking, and stuttering to the girl he likes. Funny, eh? Absolutely CUTE. But cute in a babyish way, not in manly manner. Some guys ask, "How can I NOT get nervous around the girl I like?" There will ALWAYS be excitement. This is the spark of life. Treasure it. Cherish it for it makes life worth living. Now, how do you stop being extroadinarily nervous, shy, and stuttering around the women you desire? You stop the desire. Your goal is to talk to her normally. When you have thoughts like 'marriage' or 'sex' bouncing around in the brain, you won't be talking to her comfortably. Try saying HI. Don't even think of dating for the moment. Go around and TALK. Get comfortable doing THAT. Get comfortable going out and doing things. Date yourself Would you date yourself? You have to have a plan, a sense of fun, etc. So try going out on your own doing what YOU want to do (or go out with your buddies). And when you're comfortable doing that, it'll be simple as pie to say to a chick, "You want to come along?" You'll be confidant because you've done it with yourself and/or with friends. Now you have become more of an outgoing HB_Hunter who has no problems talking to anyone, especially hot girls, and has no problems asking them out. You are the guy. They expect you to make the move. This is excellent for social practice. You can talk to them all you want to and you DON'T have to ask them out. You can go out and do fun crazy stuff without asking them out. And when girls love seeing the happy, fun to talk to, you, and ask YOU out, you can simply say NO. The girls will then proceed to call you GAY. Because they will think, "He's cute and fun and girls are after him. Yet, he won't go for them. What's wrong? Is he GAY?" You've GOT to have those social skills BEFORE you enter the fray. If you go before then you have painful learning lessons. i wanna know at which status i am from djin .. i used to get numbers pretty easy , hang out alot with chicks , charmin etc... but now i can't tell that i mnot like the one i used to be cz when i am at the right mind-set i could perform the homework as i used to
Most guys who are single JUMPS at the chance a cute/hot girl goes for them. There is a saying, Beggers cannot be choosers. Nice guys are the beggers. If a girl thinks a guy will not go for her, she thinks there is something horribly wrong with her. But once she learns that many girls go for this guy and he is not going out with them (because he has the OPTION to be picky unlike Nice Guys), she will wonder if he is gay. It's the stamp that says you're Don Juan because 1) Multiple girls are thinking of you in a sexual way and 2) They all want to go out with you. Beggers cannot be choosers. Nice Guys are the beggers. You'll know when you are Don Juan when getting a girl is routine and easy and WHEN YOU CAN CHOOSE. Nice Guys just wait until a girl they like likes them back, and marry. Shy guys wait for a girl to approach them. In both cases, they are not choosing. A Don Juan is a man who gets to choose his mate. I'll post again tomorrow. ------------------ Pook "As you think, you shall become." "The biggest risk you can take is not to risk at all." IP: 66.100.38.29 |
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posted 12-16-2001 02:05 AM
So you're getting negative results and you're feeling down about it. Do this:Take a break from women. For a month or so, just envelope yourself in your passion, your hobbies, your career, whatever. Why? Because the FOCUS is YOUR happiness. thanx first for ur reply Master Pook  i know that quite well , i know that i should go for ma passions n dreams n let her compete with them !! but what if ur bored or sincerely lack the motivation to do that passion or hobby??? u tell me plz about ur passions n hobbies that always make u feel alive ! for me it's goin to be watchinn playinsoccer,music,meditation,walkin,reading psychology , writin (but now im kind of bored of it) ,divin, u can say that most of them r indoors so this sometimes make me feel totally bored especially when all ur friends r gettin hooked up n ur the still the lone one though ur the best lookin , u have the mind,charisma n all that! i hate to say that but these days i've reached ****ty n filthy state of minds like there's no light at the end of the tunnel n that the problem i am in is a never endin issue . i maybe could be analyzin things so often but this disease called worry r huntin me everytime i talk with anyone either gal or guys !! I've asked older women (who knew me before) what they thought of my change from Nice Guy to Don Juan, from Shy Guy to Cool Guy. Their response: "You've grown up." it really hurts when u 've changed after creatin great traits in u then u feel that ur returin back to the old days when u were shy,quiet,nervous n all that!! this always force me to prove to myself that i've changed which create worry n worry while im talkin cz i wanna get to know the person better n prove that my conversation skills r fine-tuned n still workin . so i say inside myseif that i should practice,practice n practice by talkin to strangers anytime n tryin to let them talk about themselves (ConVers. For Max.Attraction) what i recieve is always a negative outcome (failed in the test) so how can i talk with gals ? when i try to say inside myself that our worries n fears r half baseless n the other half discreditable then i go n talk with gals woooow . i fail again why?? cz while im talkin with her , im not concentratin "im thinkin ooooh, where is the real me?? is that the way that i used to play?? " that's cz i used to let gals talk about themselves, thier ex-bfs , some uniqueness that they've got not like the other guys who just talk about the usual stuff (movies,stars,etc..) so i come to the conclusion that i can't listen to them n let them talk about what they r passionate about! i stay quiet so when i get an opportunity deep in myself i think n belief that there'll be a part missin in the realtionship not like before , when i try cz im neva a looser who give up . i get what i expect some small talk , how u doin etc.. then offf i stay quiet!! a self-fulfillin prophecy isn't it??? so the problem that i feel that im facin right now is that i m not havin fun like before while dealin with gals n doin my homework . this stressed-up attitude is killin me!! when u add this to situations like ur sittin alone while everybody else is kissin,makin out n havin the love that he always dreamt of! , i've come to stages like i see couples walkin n sittin alone enjoyin life picturin inside myself that i stand out n that it really now became an issue after readin all the posts, lay guide , advices, art of conversations , etc...
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posted 12-19-2001 07:08 PM
quote: so the problem that i feel that im facin right now is that i m not havin fun like before while dealin with gals n doin my homework . this stressed-up attitude is killin me!! when u add this to situations like ur sittin alone while everybody else is kissin,makin out n havin the love that he always dreamt of! , i've come to stages like i see couples walkin n sittin alone enjoyin life picturin inside myself that i stand out n that it really now became an issue after readin all the posts, lay guide , advices, art of conversations , etc...
You think that everyone is having glorious relationships. There is no such thing. Everything and everyone has warts. You are not missing out if you are single! I'm single. By choice. I go out in public and a chick will get someone to ask me if I have a girlfriend. In my early days, I used to do stuff like Kino, make sure I 'conversed' well, etcetera. For me NOW, it just gets easier and easier. But it didn't used to be so easy. One of the issues I had to get over was seeing singleness as a disease, a malfunction, something that needed immediate correction. "Time for a girlfriend," I would say to myself. Almost got together with this one girl when I realized I didn't really want it, I was becoming unhappier with her. Being single allows you to focus fully on improving yourself. Though, in a relationship you can improve, just not fully. Losing my Nice Guyness, I realized that you have to keep yourself out of the comfort zone. In the romantic realm, of course I improved. Amazingly, you can use that same technique to improve every aspect of your life. "I'm comfortable at this job." Time to get a better one! "I'm used to these clothes. Not comfortable about dressing better." Wrong answer! "I'm not uncomfortable about being scrawny. I'm skinny and certainly not like a stupid jock." Time to improve! When does the improvement end? It never does. That is the curse of life. Though, the rewards are far greater then any obtained through 'settling'. I've met millionaires, scientists, astronauts, etc. You do not see in them that urge to just settle like a wilting plant. No, they keep pushing especially after success. Take any greatly successful person in any industry and I will assure you that their mindset is the same: "I'm going to be the best I can." What is their biggest fear? It is their children growing up with luxuries and not realizing that a certain mindset that is responsible for success. When you reach this point, you can't return to shy and quiet because those become childhood days. You'll find yourself taking on new challenges and learning new things you thought were impossible for you before. One of the best things I did for my Don Juanism is to say, "Hell with signs!" To hell what size her pupils are! To hell how she strokes her hair! To hell with her posture! To hell with her hinted conversations! To hell with her could-be/not-be flirtations! To hell with analyzing in every way! I treated every woman the same. I treated the hot chick the same as the ugly chick. Since I wasn't looking for a girlfriend, there were no potentials or targets. By treating them all the same I kept my sanity. I talk to them. I have fun with them. My gut said, "Pook, they are flirting with you." To hell with that gut! I stayed the course. "Pook," my mind said, "they are in lustful thoughts about you; you can see it in their eyes." To HELL what their lustful thoughts! My nerves then said, "Pook, they are touching you, initiating kino with you. They are making excuses to touch you, to feel you..." TO HELL WHAT THEY DO! I had plans. I was unfolding my own destiny. I intended to do this, this, and that and improve myself in these several areas right now. To hell what they did! And you know what happened when I did this? I overheard... "Oh, that Pook! He is so confident!" "He looks you straight in the eyes. He knows where he is going in life." "Man, I wish I was single so I could go for him!" Lo and behold! What a change this was! But to hell with their interest and their dreams of marriage, I had plans. And as I steadily improve, the faster and more consistant the interest is becoming. This is why its important to take a break from girl hunting not in physical form (as removing yourself from the vicinity of girls)but in the mental form (as in wanting gf or wondering what is going on in their heads). Stay the course. Keep your compass set to YOU. A Nice Guy reacts, a Don Juan acts. A psuedo Nice Guy, one with a Lay Guide or something else, starts wondering what the girls are doing and starts REACTING to it. But a Don Juan could care less how a woman thinks and does what he does. A Don Juan focuses on how a Man thinks rather than how a Woman thinks. Stop reacting to what women are doing. They will think what they think and do what they do. To help you out, don't immediately desire a girlfriend. Treat them all the same and keep your life's focus on YOU. You think you do that now, but you aren't. Where do YOU want to be five years from now? Time is our non-renewable resource. As you get older, the more and more time flows faster. Life is but a flash but the flash is all. ------------------ Pook "As you think, you shall become." "The biggest risk you can take is not to risk at all." IP: 66.100.38.14 |
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posted 12-21-2001 11:25 AM
Wooooow , woooooow thank u so much pook for ur undivided attention to my posts i am now a different person , i've just returned back from a one week vacation in a great place . it was one of the best vacations that i've had in all my entire life! to keep a long story short , all my problem was psychological n i did know how to get over it . i found out that by self-improvment or by improvin in oneself (the regions n points that u wanna improve in urself) and u and ONLY U who can JUdge n see this!! first of all , you have to feel good about urself , so i started like that by creatin this program called Continous Self-Improvin Program Or C.S.I i found out that when i study hard n do my assigsments ----- feel great that when i am focusin on my hobbies and doin them ----- feeel great i've made a schedule a busy one with to follow in my life filled with all my my work,hobbies, studies, meditation etc.. i found out that i can live withuot gals n lead a happy life and i believe that this is the key towards being a dj to stop needin them thanx Mr.Pook after doin this , i've received immediate results  i've known like 5 gals in one day n i got their numbers so easily , found that i can talk pretty easily like before , that im not a shy person at all but a charmin guy just like richard gere or brad pitt or alpacino . i now believe in myself , i am confident n i know that i can do anythin in the world that i wanna do i can hear some ppl here syain that i misunderstood n that this is fake success because since i found myself good at conversin,kino etc.. no it isn 't the case , cz i'll continue improvin myself with or without gals . i don't give a **** , im cute , smart , ambitious , confident , charmin , got a great smile , know where im goin in life ! after knowin these 5 gals . i got rejected as well 2 times but i didn't give up or got upset cz i know that i'll succeed in life cz i think that i am that succesfull person ! im just thinkin of quittin the site like i did from 6 months since the dj plane now is on auto-pilot mood . i'll surely think about that  many thanks to this site , to pook , red, neo all i am now the man n i can do what i wanna do , i 'll follow all my passions n dreams n be a great psychiatrist . gals 'll come after that or even after being a great soccer player like M.Owen  IP: 212.12.228.219 |
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posted 01-07-2002 02:04 AM
You know what Pook, I think you lived in every century and studied women in all those, because this post is gold. Keep em comin man. I read it and it was like my life story with women. ------------------ Once...Twice...Three times I laid it. IP: 24.69.255.205 |
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posted 02-24-2002 01:06 PM
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------------------ Don't let the Matrix control reality, take control of your own life starting now! Go Confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined! THE DJ BIBLE THE DJ Multi-Poll Center IP: 212.239.198.30 |
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posted 03-18-2002 07:03 PM
Buuump.God i love this thread. IP: 204.60.25.4 |
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posted 03-18-2002 08:05 PM
OK, so where is Intermediate DJ with the Wayne Ross posts?------------------ Bro's rule, grrrls drool! IP: 65.211.44.240 |
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posted 04-14-2002 01:42 AM
hey pook it's me metty i have a friend that wants to talk to u so yeah here Zak: yo pook you talk about being urself and be confient and stuff like that but what if u be urself and it turns out that the real u is a jerk. just like me. i mean think about it. think that ur some kind of a prince and if someone is flirting w/ u the hell w/ them. and i see that ur talking about how can shy guys become what u call "DJ's" but how does jerks become "DJ's" well pook i'm a jerk and ur sayin be urself well here i am. so what i got the girls and why r u putting me down. halla back if u want. ------------------ live and learn and have fun while u still can IP: 64.0.99.233 |
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posted 04-15-2002 11:48 PM
Girls will reflect towards your confidence, even in a jerk-like form.Tarzan was confidant and girls loved him. Yet, he was a barbarian. Thus, the focus cannot be women; it must be life. ------------------ Pook As you think, you shall become! Oh masculinity! We have seen you persecuted by laws, mocked at the courts, shunned by the university, nagged into servitude, chased from education, jeered at by the powers that be, insulted by intelligentsia, laughed at by women, and betrayed by your most trusted guardians, males. For if you are forgotten now in this last era, what hope is there for the dignity of man and the youth that follows? IP: 158.135.8.181 |
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posted 04-18-2002 08:55 AM
How about if she knows that i am desperate for her, and i want to change that,does i still have a chance with her, once she has saw the desperation?
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posted 04-18-2002 01:15 PM
Great post I mean I've had a few women go crazy over me (I dont know why?) But they would just be every where and call, you know the desprate bit. And some of these girl were hot... but after that they seemed unattractive too me. (But I still hit the skins..... just playing!)IP: 128.172.213.11 |
Don Juan
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posted 04-22-2002 09:25 PM
Hey Pook, your ideas have freed the desperate and needing person in us. Instead of focusing on the pursuit you brilliantly suggested that we inverse the direction of our efforts to become happy. Women will come along. It's very refreshing and can liberate men from their self-enslavement regarding women. But I have to press one issue. At one time or another you're going to have to let the girl know you like her. I mean you can be playful, interesting, and charming but that romantic connection must be laid down. If it isn't, your energy is wasted. Flirting is defintitely a good way to test her possible romantic inclinations toward you. Keeping this in mind, you don't just want to have great conversations with her too long. If this happens, she'll become comfortable with your status as a "friend". Instead you should establish a repoire with her but move in before it gets too late. You can even try to kiss her on a date. It's a matter of feeling her out. Flirting is the key so you can be able to read her. IF you can attract her with your personality and keep the romance light (and that is also important) you may slowly win your way with her. It takes experience and practice to become efficient at this. Pook, it's reassuring to see someone with such a positive attitude. Keep writing so we can all exchange ideas so we can be the ones who lead the direction with women.IP: 216.148.246.134 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 05-20-2002 03:36 AM
GREATEST THREAD IN SOSUAVE.COM HISTORY.IP: 24.174.82.8 |
Don Juan
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posted 06-22-2002 09:07 PM
Again, sorry for bringing up an ancient post... but I had to.I have to give my thanks to Pook (and the others who contributed) for writing this. Very very good writing. I've made a lot of realizations by reading this post. I am a nice guy. Time to change that... IP: 24.54.225.9 | |