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AlfredB18

Master Don Juan
posted 06-17-2001 04:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AlfredB18     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Scarface:
I know this is a really old post, and my question might get ignored... but do you guys really think you have to wait 3 months before you tell her anything about yourself...

I know 3 months goes by quick, buts it seems a little long...


If, by chance, you have come in to the presence of a real intelligent girl (it happens), she will eject you before that 3 months is up...more like 3 days if you give her the vibe that you live a double life.

Basically, don't pour your soul out to her so soon. You do that, then she feels compelled to do the same, which inevitably brings up her past and how she got done wrong by guys X, Y, and Z....then you're in the "Zone" because she's using your shoulder to cry on.

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syncmaster

Moderator
posted 06-17-2001 05:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for syncmaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is a really good thread. I've learned a lot. I'm surprised that we have more female DJ's in here.
I just wanted to welcome you all, G, Dizgal, nice to have ya.

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Syncmaster signing out.
a.k.a ... Adam

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BigBill

Master Don Juan
posted 09-22-2001 06:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BigBill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I like what LSE is saying.

I may try that out myslef and see If I can get it to work. Like he said its all in the attitude. If I tried this s few months back before I started talking to girls and getting my confidence level high it wouldn't have worked. now that I really don't give a fuk about any particular chick and have that true confidence I bet it works just like he says.

You set yourself apart from the rest by

1) expecting her to call you
2) coming on like you get chicks calling you all the time instead of havig to chase them like most guys.

I'm gonna try it and see. the main thing is the confidence. Either way ought to work if you have that going on.

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IntermediateDonJuaner

Master Don Juan
posted 09-22-2001 12:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for IntermediateDonJuaner     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Guys,you are making things complicated,that's all.!

When you people say follow rules, they are too difficult to be applied. There are times when you should bend the rules to fit yourself. If there are rules that we must definitely follow, I suggest if someone list them all out so we will never be confused again.

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Sir_Chancealot

Master Don Juan
posted 09-22-2001 01:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sir_Chancealot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ok, what's happening on this thread is a "failure to communicate".

Here are a couple of things to keep in mind:

1) Most of the guys on here are recovering AFCs. That means they need HARD AND FAST RULES. No bending, no breaking, no thinking. Otherwise they will lapse back into their AFC ways. (I speak from personal experience)

2) After the recovering AFC has ingrained the DJ ways, made them part of who he is, AND they have become a habit; only THEN is he free to start bending and breaking them. He will now have the skills and habits necessary to not go back to being an AFC. Even then, sometimes he will slip up. (Again, speaking from personal experience)

3) Each person has their own personality and style. Each person's approach and attitude will be different. Once the basics are ingrained, a true DJ will use the DJ principles to his advantage, or discard them when necessary, also to his advantage.

Each DJ on this site will instinctively know if a particular method will work for them. I am very good with neg-hits, because I can have a very nasty sarcastic side when I want to. So, I tame that and bend it to neg-hits. See what I mean?

If a particular approach, tip, or idea doesn't work for you, then treat that idea the same as you would a girl you don't like. NEXT! However, this presupposses that you have at least TRIED the idea, and not rejected it because it sounds like it won't work. Neg-hits are another PERFECT example. They sound like they would p*ss off a hot chick, but they won't if used correctly.

I am glad to see that everyone is keeping this on a "professional" level, if you will, and not getting personal.

In conclusion, there are all different styles. You will find what works for you.

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Mastermind

Master Don Juan
posted 09-22-2001 01:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mastermind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Low Self Esteem:

11. TOTALLY DISAGREE!! Don't just shack up wit any ol broad but if it is marrying the best that you are tryna do, than you better live with her ass before you even think about marriage. i have lived with broads before and i swear to you it is a totally different ballgame once you live with them, than it is when you don't. you better test them waters before you decide to be thinkin bout marriage. human nature makes you always want to do something and then once you do it or get what you want then you see it aint what you thought, and in this case if you are talkin bout a girl you better be sure.

[This message has been edited by Low Self Esteem (edited 06-11-2000).]


Umm well I Totally disagree on this one, I read this book that if you live with someone before you marry them you have less chance of staying with them or her . This because you get a lil bored with her if you live with her, you know what shes like. On the other hand if you don't live with her b4 you marry her then things get interesting.


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Don't over-shower her with compliments that will make her BIG and you little.

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Ralph Bellamy

Don Juan
posted 05-21-2002 02:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ralph Bellamy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Anti-Dump:
THE PERFECT DON JUAN
He asks for a girl's phone number when he FIRST meets or sees her. Not one month later.

He always asks for the HOME phone number. He walks away if he doesn't get it.
AD


I have seen a lot of debate over "give your phone number" vs. "demand hers" and I want to put in my two cents:

I have had far more initial success giving my number out than getting others. Usually, it's on the back of a business card that only has my work numbers, like I'm saying "I'm just doing this for you." You would be surprised how often I get phone calls the next morning saying "I just wanted to make sure you got home okay."

Having said *that*...I am *not* recommending it and am agreeing with Anti-Dump. Why? Because my weak points are related to approaching women on my own and this will not solve those. Some of my biggest heartbreaks have come from women who made the first move...because *I* wasn't in control. That's changing, buddy, let me tell you...

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Maximus

Master Don Juan
posted 05-23-2002 07:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Maximus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Low Self Esteem:

and to Penzilla- you have me wrong i DO get it that is why i got strong opinions

Ditto.

I "get" what I need for me.

Be open to all.

Observe and learn.

Keep what is usefull to you.

Discard the rest ONLY AFTER much thought and deliberation.

Know yourself.

Know what you want.

Then go get it.

Maximus

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The Way of The
Simpleton - A
simpleton: lays down
no first law, takes
everything that
happens as it comes.
The simplicity of the
truly sophisticated.

---- Bruce Lee

[This message has been edited by Maximus (edited 05-23-2002).]

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Maximus

Master Don Juan
posted 05-23-2002 08:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Maximus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Ralph Bellamy:because *I* wasn't in control.

This has always puzzled me.

Why do people think in terms of power and control?

No. I am not naive. Power and control are a reality in this world. I would simply ask those here to start looking at all relationships (personal and professional) that rely on tactics of giving and taking power; methods of gaining or releasing control.

ARE THOSE PEOPLE HAPPY?

It has been my observation in life that those who constantly think in terms of power and control will have great difficulty achieving true happiness.

The only control you need is control over:
- yourself
- your choices
- your reactions to things beyond your control.

Once you let go, things just start to work out for themselves. This may sound like new age nonsense to a lot of people here - and I would have agreed with you to some degree two years ago. Many things in my life have changed but I have ALWAYS remained true to my core values.

Trust

Honesty

Help others

Help yoursef

Be happy

I still have my down times. I simply trust that there is A GOOD REASON I was put on this planet.

I hope when I draw my final breath, I will be able to look back and know what it was. I think my answer will be...

Just be

Maximus

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