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BriSoFli

Don Juan
posted 11-15-2001 08:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BriSoFli     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The power and influence that a girl’s closest friends have to influence her decisions should NEVER be underestimated.

(I am going to use the hypothetical hottie "Judy" to make this tip easier to understand.)

If you can get Judy's friends on your side you will find that they will work in your favor. It's like having someone working behind the scenes for you. Her friends will actually ENCOURAGE her to pursue you and/or (hopefully) hook up with you even when you aren't around.

If, for some reason, Judy's closest friends come to dislike you then this concept works in the opposite direction. They will try to get her to hook up with someone else (that they do like) and they will talk bad about you and make fun of you when you aren't around.

I learned the importance of this concept many years ago and have been sure to use a girl's friends to my advantage ever since. I can also look back and see relationships with girlfriends that went sour right around the same time that I started not getting along with her friends.

Some tips on getting in good with the friends...

- Don't ignore the friend. I don't like to be ignored, you don't like to be ignored. In fact, most likely they are sick of being ignored. You are hitting on their (probably) better looking friend who is always getting all the attention. Give her some attention and she will love you for it.

- Treat both of them with respect. Judy's friend is watching you like a hawk while you talk to her. One little peek at her boobs when you THINK that nobody is watching and when you walk away Judy's friend is whispering in her ear, "That guy is such a jerk, he was staring down your shirt! LOSER!"

- Become friends with the friends. This is especially important if you are planning on pursuing a LTR with a girl. Now, if Judy leaves you her friends will be like “We miss _________.” And make her feel guilty for dumping you. ; ) This is always difficult to do (sometimes a girls friends are pretty annoying) but it pays off big in the long run if you can not only be nice to the friends but if you can actually BEFRIEND them.

To summarize, become friends with the Judy's friends, and they will talk about how good looking you are. Piss her friends off and they will talk about how good looking someone else is.

Hope this helps,

Brian Gladu

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Centaurion

Don Juan
posted 11-15-2001 01:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Centaurion   Click Here to Email Centaurion     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
true...so very true... been there and experienced it first hand. I wasn't nice to her best friend and it ended up ruining our relationsship...

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Nine Breaker

Master Don Juan
posted 11-15-2001 07:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nine Breaker   Click Here to Email Nine Breaker     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That was a good post, BriSoFli. You made an excellent point about a woman's friends having a large influence on your chances. Very simple, very true, and very useful. My hat goes off to you.

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IntermediateDonJuaner

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posted 11-16-2001 07:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for IntermediateDonJuaner     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not completely true here.

I know a girl's friends could influence her but don't tell me that she did not put a good word for you in front of her friends. Let me ask you one thing, if a girl that you are pursuing likes you, do you think she will not talk anything good about you?

Furthermore, I think it is better to focus more on her rather than too much on her friends. Of course,give them some attention but not too much or your so-called potential girlfriend will not be yours cause you ignored her!

Good Luck

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BriSoFli

Don Juan
posted 11-16-2001 07:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BriSoFli     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"Not completely true here."

How?

"Let me ask you one thing, if a girl that you are pursuing likes you, do you think she will not talk anything good about you?"

Yes, she probably did. That is not what this post is about. This post is about how her friends can influence her once they don't like you compared to when they do like you.

"Furthermore, I think it is better to focus more on her rather than too much on her friends."

Yes, you would want to do that. I didn't think that I had to say that. I mean to imply that the friend were more important, just that her influence is a factor you must consider when picking up girls.

Thanks,

Brian

[This message has been edited by BriSoFli (edited 11-16-2001).]

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comote

Don Juan
posted 11-17-2001 11:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for comote     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have to agree with the tip. Back in my afc days a girl who I was with for 3 years broke up with me and among the main reasons she gave was because her friends liked this other guy better. A woman's friends can always influence her, you are NEVER free of that.

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AlfredB18

Master Don Juan
posted 11-17-2001 02:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AlfredB18   Click Here to Email AlfredB18     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by comote:
I have to agree with the tip. Back in my afc days a girl who I was with for 3 years broke up with me and among the main reasons she gave was because her friends liked this other guy better. A woman's friends can always influence her, you are NEVER free of that.

Agreed...
Hopefully, though, you can find one who's level-headed enough to where although she takes input from friends, she uses her own noggin to make a final decision.

I don't have anyhting agaist a chicks friends, per se, but if a chick is tied to their hip like the Borg collective...NEXT!

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Poosy Marauder

Master Don Juan
posted 11-17-2001 08:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Poosy Marauder     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Young women in particular are generally spineless and will do whatever is perceived to be popular with their friends.

A woman's friends are generally integral to her life (social creatures remember) and they will place their social approval in the group above anything else, even their own individual attractions.

So yes, win the admiration of her friends and you're half way home.

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WildThang

Don Juan
posted 11-18-2001 06:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for WildThang   Click Here to Email WildThang     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
*Excellent* tip - thankyou.

A smooth and clever variation on social proof, which works for similar reasons. To a woman 'Other chicks like him' is always a huge turn-on, no matter who those other chicks are. It's a sign of social status. And status sells.

If the other chicks are friends, even better.

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