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Topic: Pimpology 101: The Conversation - Part I
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posted 07-29-2001 03:20 PM
The Conversation - Part I: The introduction The introduction of the conversation is very important in creating a good first impression; opening up the conversation strong is key. Delivering an introduction breaks the ice and puts you into a position to start asking questions and increasing the rapport.
I recommend using these 3 introductions/approaches: 1) “Hi… what’s your name?”
2) “Hi… my name is <name>.”
3a) “Hi”.
- If she says hi and/or smiles at you, then continue from:
“What’s your name?”
3b) “Hi”.
- If she says hi and/or smiles at you, then comment/compliment on something about her.
- If she says thanks and/or smiles at you, then continue from:
“What’s your name?” 3c) *Don’t say hi *
- Comment/compliment on something about her
- If she says thanks and/or smiles at you, then continue from:
“What’s your name?” Note: Review the lesson on complimenting before using methods 3b) and 3c).
Keys Points/Analysis:
- Shake her hand correctly……It’s very important that you extend your hand at a slight angle with palm up to initiate a female type handshake in which she will respond by extending her hand with palm angled down. This will usually prevent it from turning into a formal handshake where both your hands end up vertically meeting. A formal handshake points you into the direction of the “friendship” zone right from the start; try your best to initiate a “girl” handshake.
- Don’t hold on too long………let go once she starts letting go. You will call too much attention to the your handshake if you hold on longer than she does and it won’t seem natural to her. Remember you’re trying to work on her subconscious; you don’t want her becoming suspicious of anything.
- Initiate kino (body contact) as early as possible…..a simple non-threatening handshake is an excellent way of creating early kino. It also makes her feel more comfortable with you.
- Say her name……..after saying it was nice meeting her, this works subconsciously by giving her the illusion that you’re familiar with each other already.
- Refrain from complimenting….. during your first several approaches so you’re able to get into the groove of your rap without the pressure of having to do too many things all at once. After a few dry runs, you’ll know when you should give one or not.
- Use proper eye contact ….don’t stare in her eyes the whole entire intro but don’t look around either. Look in her eyes when asking her name…..after she gives you her name, glance down for a second towards the area you’ll be shaking hands while extending your hand …….once her hand is about to come into contact with yours, look back at her eyes and finish your intro.
Conclusion:
· - DON’T use “pick-up lines”……… The best approach is a straightforward approach; don’t start off by beating around the bush.
[This message has been edited by Pimpologist (edited 08-02-2001).] IP: 64.163.28.107 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 07-29-2001 05:47 PM
" GOOD POST "------------------
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Master Don Juan
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posted 06-23-2002 09:51 PM
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Master Don Juan
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posted 06-23-2002 11:40 PM
I usually look for something awkward about the situation then start off by asking a humorous question about it.
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