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Rebel Leader

Master Don Juan
posted 01-19-2002 12:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rebel Leader     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Glad to see this topic discussed so thoroughly. It confirms my resolution to never discuss other men with the man I happen to be in company with, unless he is purely at a confidant/friend level. If there is any interest on his part at all, he gets very uncomfortable with the situation, and feels like he has to DO something about it. I don't like making people feel uncomfortable, so I think I'll just avoid the topic all together.

A few observations that I picked up along the way:

At times, I've felt somewhat insecure, so I threw out a "he said this about me", looking for a reality check from the guy I was with, as in, "is this comment for real or is it just a ploy?"

Other times, I felt very confident and had some interest in the guy I was with, and wanted to see what he was made of, so I threw out "other guys are interested" as a test to see if present company had the balls to rise to the challenge. (ok, ok, it was a dumb test)

One man who had high interest level heard an "other guys" comment that wasn't meant as a challenge or as a reality check, and his response was, "Do you want me to send in Guido and the boys to break his knees?"

It's one way of finding out what's on her mind, guys!

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crowes22

Master Don Juan
posted 01-19-2002 02:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for crowes22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I had always thought that when women mentioned guys or BF's they were trying to let you know you had no chance. Not until I found this site did I realize different. As Pook described on the first page of this thread I had a girl do these exact things to me. She talked about things her BF did, never how she felt about him. Also he said girls don't girly talk their romantic interests. This is so true, and as an AFC I didn't realize this. This is a sure fire way to see if a girl is still interested in my opinion. With this one girl I didn't make a move b/c of the BF issue. We still keep in touch however and she never girly talks me. I am assuming she is still interested. Very valuable info from Pook.

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crowes22

Master Don Juan
posted 01-19-2002 02:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for crowes22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I had always thought that when women mentioned guys or BF's they were trying to let you know you had no chance. Not until I found this site did I realize different. As Pook described on the first page of this thread I had a girl do these exact things to me. She talked about things her BF did, never how she felt about him. Also he said girls don't girly talk their romantic interests. This is so true, and as an AFC I didn't realize this. This is a sure fire way to see if a girl is still interested in my opinion. With this one girl I didn't make a move b/c of the BF issue. We still keep in touch however and she never girly talks me. I am assuming she is still interested. Very valuable info from Pook.

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trickynick

Master Don Juan
posted 01-19-2002 07:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for trickynick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have not been to this topic until now, but there seems to be a really good discussion going on. I am in a situation now where a girl wants to be stolen by me. The only problem is her bf and I have been friends for a year. No way that's going to happen.

IP: 4.41.163.12

BGMan

Master Don Juan
posted 01-20-2002 04:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BGMan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, if she talks about other guys being interested in her, I don't mind, but the minute I hear the words "my boyfriend", I'm like, "it's been nice knowing ya!" Well, maybe not THAT obvious, but I politely wait for an opportunity to leave.

BGMan

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Survivor

Master Don Juan
posted 01-20-2002 10:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Survivor     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
While Wyldfire's tip was well intentioned, I don't think most of young DJs here have yet developed the intuitiveness or social skills to discern what it means when a girl mentions other guys in a conversation.

Bottom line, DJs want to know whether or not a girl likes them. Requesting her home phone number, then proposing a date, accomplishes that better than any kind of psycho-analysis.

Don't get me wrong, translating Womanese has its place (for experienced DJs), but in no way does it replace the home phone number.

I have to agree with Pook. I don't reccommend analyzing women. Because you run the risk this of RATIONALIZING disrespectful behavior from low interest females.

If a girl that you are interested in starts confusing you by mentioning other guys in conversation, simply request her home phone number, then go out on a real date with her. Then see how she acts. That should clear the air.

Problem solved.

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Wyldfire

Master Don Juan
posted 03-28-2002 02:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Wyldfire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
bump

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trickynick

Master Don Juan
posted 03-28-2002 02:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for trickynick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wyldfire LOL,

Bumping three of your articles at the same time? Is this some sort of cry for attention?

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Wyldfire

Master Don Juan
posted 03-28-2002 03:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Wyldfire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by trickynick:
Wyldfire LOL,

Bumping three of your articles at the same time? Is this some sort of cry for attention?


Just trying to get more meaty discussions going on. I knew these were meaty so bumped them first. I'll be bumping more over a period of time...gotta find them first tho. This might also remind some that I have contributed more than arguing.

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CHALENGE GUY

Master Don Juan
posted 04-07-2002 05:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CHALENGE GUY     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
I was placing the tapioca pudding back onto the shelf when I felt someone looking at me. I turned and saw this man checking me out! It felt SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO good! You hear me? It felt SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO good! Man, it felt good. Oh, you have no idea how good it felt. It felt GOOD. REALLY good. Oh, you don't know how GOOD!"

Although the above is exaggerated [Understatement of the century- Sosuave.com] the point is that the woman is flopping her emotions out. She is not interested. You are in Friend-Zone.


ROFL!!

IP: 24.200.138.90

stonedface

Don Juan
posted 04-07-2002 10:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for stonedface     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello everyone! I am rather new here. Just wanna ask this:

What if the girl knows that you are interested in her from your actions and you ask the girl if she has a boyfriend and she says no, but she says she has a close male friend whom she always goes camping with one on one, and after further probing, she gets extremely evasive, dismissing that they were just normal friends, changes the topic and gets a bit irritated. What does that mean?

Grateful for any comments.

IP: 202.156.0.18

Wyldfire

Master Don Juan
posted 04-07-2002 10:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Wyldfire     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by stonedface:
Hello everyone! I am rather new here. Just wanna ask this:

What if the girl knows that you are interested in her from your actions and you ask the girl if she has a boyfriend and she says no, but she says she has a close male friend whom she always goes camping with one on one, and after further probing, she gets extremely evasive, dismissing that they were just normal friends, changes the topic and gets a bit irritated. What does that mean?

Grateful for any comments.


You can't rely on anyone picking up on signals or understanding the meaning of your actions. I've found out after someone has liked me for a very long time and honestly had no idea at all they liked me. Women are very different than men when it comes to friendships with the opposite sex. Since we usually don't realize that a guy who makes friends with us probably wants to either get involved with us or sleep with us we very often don't notice the signals. If you want her to know for sure, you are going to have to be pretty overt about it. Just ask her out. If she doesn't say yes then she isn't interested.

IP: 24.50.52.106


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