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DonJoey

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posted 08-07-2001 12:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for DonJoey     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Earlier this year, a workmate of mine and myself were talking about how we constantly bomb out of picking up women we like simply because we get to shyt scared to make the initial approach.
Then we talked about how much worse we feel for not doing and my mate coined the phrase during one of our conversations "Man, I feel so much like shyt I hit the steering wheel when i'm driving just thinking how stupid I am."
And that's something that struck me. Not approaching a girl actually feels worse than getting rejected. So I swore to myself that next time I was starting to scare myself into not speaking/approaching a girl I would remind myself not to "hit the steering wheel" either...i'd use it as my mantra to motivate myself to get rid of my fears and pressure myself into making an approach.
Just by saying that, I jog my memory to the feelings of angst of not picking up or at least trying....not making an effort is the act of a true loser. And I didnt want to be one.
Now whenever I start that churning in my stomach and LoserJoey starts trying to convince me to not do anything - I just think to myself "DOnt hit the steering wheel on this one." and I hear the words come out of my mouth..."Hi, my name's Joe, what's yours?"

[This message has been edited by DonJoey (edited 08-07-2001).]

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Dj Chase

Master Don Juan
posted 08-07-2001 05:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dj Chase     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
this is a good post

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DonJoey

Master Don Juan
posted 08-07-2001 10:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DonJoey     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
let the world know.

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tweeder

Don Juan
posted 08-07-2001 11:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for tweeder     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Excellent, excellent, excellent post. And you really couldn't have written this at a better time. I really needed to read this after tonight. A great looking girl came into work, and I kept catching her looking at me. Then she'd shyly smile and look away. Any other girl I would have gone for it, but she was so good looking that I became intimidated I guess. BIG DJ MISTAKE I MIGHT ADD. Now I'm kicking myself like crazy. Now I'll never know what I could of had. We should all follow DonJoey's advice. Thanks!!!

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DonJoey

Master Don Juan
posted 08-08-2001 10:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DonJoey     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Tweeder,

Now use that feeling you've got to motivate yourself to not do the same next time. Keep doing it until it becomes a natural feeling to you.

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SupaManlova2G

Don Juan
posted 11-06-2001 11:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SupaManlova2G     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by tweeder:
Excellent, excellent, excellent post. And you really couldn't have written this at a better time. I really needed to read this after tonight. A great looking girl came into work, and I kept catching her looking at me. Then she'd shyly smile and look away. Any other girl I would have gone for it, but she was so good looking that I became intimidated I guess. BIG DJ MISTAKE I MIGHT ADD. Now I'm kicking myself like crazy. Now I'll never know what I could of had. We should all follow DonJoey's advice. Thanks!!!

Its so good to know that I'am not the only one to make a mistake like that. That happened to me a while ago and still regret that day. What really pisses me off is that I did not know how to read signals from girls at that time. Even now, There is a girl in my school who stares at me for long periods of time. I even stared back at here and she started blushing. But something keeps holdin me back from talkin to here. On thing I found that some of us need to do is JUST RELAX!! Every girl isn't gonna like you. But you ca still have an attidude LIKE IT. Sometimes I got to litertly FORCE MYSELF to say hello to everyone. But let me tell you. When you start being nice all the time. Other people like being around you, Thus Attracting Girls. So JUST RELAX and be yourself!!

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Bungo Pony

Master Don Juan
posted 11-07-2001 11:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bungo Pony     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is what I always tell myself when I'm in this situation:

"Go do it, or you won't get anywhere with her. Do it now before it's too late!"

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Hey little girl, I wanna be your boyfriend - Ramones

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Giovanni69

Don Juan
posted 05-27-2002 11:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Giovanni69     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
IS NOW OR NEVER YOU ARE RIGHT, JUST DO IT!!!!
i guess u have to start laying the first brick to end up whit a great wall

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