posted 05-27-2002 01:35 AM
MAKING HER FEEL SPECIALThe good looking women are hit-on by many men. They really do have their pick of whomever they want. The only way you have a shot is to stand out and offer her something that other guys can't.
Lot's of guys like to use neg-hits. I can use them, but I find it more rewarding to stay away from the stuck-up women. Compliments can get you far. But what do you compliment. Let's see, women care about their clothes and hair, so let's compliment their clothes and hair!!
WRONG
Everybody compliments their clothes and hair. "Oh I like that haircut."
OR
"That's a nice shirt!"
You get the idea. She won't feel special when you tell her those things. She won't feel horribly appreciated for her talents. So what do you do? Compliment what she's good at. Fantastic idea since you don't have a clue what she's good at. This is where improvisation comes in handy. Below is a conversation between me and a decent chick (7)
I was DJing a dance i.e. playing the music, and during a slow song I walked out to the floor. I saw a girl who had been passed up by a couple of guys, and walked straight to her and looked her in the eye. As soon as I got there I turned my back to her and looked at the speakers. Out of the corner of my eye I could see that she was very dissapointed. She had thought I was going to ask her to dance.
Me: "I have to ask you a question."
Her: (eyes lighting up) What?
Me: Do you hear a fuzz in one of the speakers. (There was no fuzz, I knew this)
Her: Yeah, I think I do.
Me: Does it sound like the right one?
Her: Yeah I think it does.
Me: Wow, you have great ears, I really had to strain to hear that.
Her: Thanks, I always wanted to be a DJ.
Me: Well why don't you come back and I'll show you how my equipment works. (Said in a barely perceptible sexual way)
Her: I'd like that.
I showed her the stuff, and we talked for a while until the end of the dance.
Me: I'd like to get you to help me with my next gig.
Her: Are you asking me on a date?
Me: No. I'm afraid I can't date you.
Her: Do you have a girlfriend.
Me: Nope.
Her (looking hurt): Then why not?
Me: Because I don't have your name or number, so I won't be able to get ahold of you.
Her: (Excitedly writing down info) Here you go!!
Me: I'll call you real soon.
I called her three days later.
You see how I complimented her hearing. It sounds lame, but she was really flattered. She felt even more special when I showed her how the equipment worked etc. But at least thrice I dashed her hopes against the rocks. The first time when I simply walked out toward her and turned my back, and the second when I did not ask her the question she wanted to hear, and the third when I said I couldn't date her. This emotional roller coaster caused her to think for just a minute second that she had lost all hope of getting me, but when she succeded she would value me even more, because I was so hard to capture.
GET IT?
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Sarcastic Sardonic Irreverent Impertinent Exasperating Disrespectful and Charming. This is the way of the scoundrel
[This message has been edited by UltimateScoundrel (edited 05-27-2002).]