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Topic: "I'm doing great!": confident or delusional?
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Master Don Juan
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posted 03-04-2002 05:37 PM
Giovanni Casanova's excellent post in Tips ../../../ubb/Forum6/HTML/001362.html brought a question to my mind.Just curious about what you think of women who respond, "Great!" when life has them down -- she's breaking up an LTR, her mom died, she's broke, she's scraping together a business start-up, or putting one thru bankruptcy, etc. Does it seem strong and confident to you, or just delusional? ------------------ Live ... Love ... Laugh IP: 12.75.101.35 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 03-04-2002 05:48 PM
A sales manager once told me that when someone asks "how's business" he says "It's incredible!" (which of course can be interpreted any which way and is not lying)But seriously folks, who among us wants to say "how ya doing" and hear "oh my God, my mom just died, I'm going broke, my car just brke down and my cat is sick"...really? ------------------ Bro's rule, grrrls drool! IP: 65.211.44.240 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 03-04-2002 05:55 PM
quote: Originally posted by the graphics guy: A sales manager once told me that when someone asks "how's business" he says "It's incredible!" (which of course can be interpreted any which way and is not lying)But seriously folks, who among us wants to say "how ya doing" and hear "oh my God, my mom just died, I'm going broke, my car just brke down and my cat is sick"...really?
agree! Nobody really care about how you feel when they ask "how ya doing?". It's just a polite phrase that has lost it's literal meaning. /Turbobird
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Master Don Juan
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posted 03-04-2002 06:42 PM
Someone can be going through a tremendous amount of crap and still be doing great. It's all about how you look at things. If you face each challenge put before you as an opportunity to learn and grow as a human being, then you generally roll with whatever comes your way,,,regardless of how difficult it may be. If you are a person who lets things you have no control over get the better of you, then you aren't going to fare so well during the speed bumps of life. As with nearly everything...it's all about attitude and your perception.IP: 24.50.52.106 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 03-04-2002 07:08 PM
Laugh and the whole world laughs with you.Cry and you cry alone. Nobody likes to hang out with someone who is depressed, sad, feeling down, or whatever. "Keep your bad luck to yourself," we seem to say. Being a happy person going around miserable people doesn't make them happier, it usually makes you miserable. Nobody likes to be miserable. ------------------ CASANOVA "You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you." Eric Hoffer "I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it." Voltaire "Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it." Francois de La Rochefoucauld IP: 152.163.204.182 |
Master Don Juan
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posted 03-04-2002 08:14 PM
Damn, I'm getting scared. I'm starting to agree with Wyldfire.She said pretty much what I was thinking. It's not how bad you're doing, it's how you're handling it. Twelve years ago, I went through some of the worst sh!t any human being should ever have to endure, and it hit me hard, but I realized this was the hand life dealt me. I could be angry and act like a victim, or see it as an opportunity to improve as a person. I wanted to look back on that time as an old man and know that I had done my best to enjoy life to the fullest. No regrets. I don't always handle things in the best manner, but I usually come to my senses pretty quick, because I refuse to let life beat me down. I'm not delusional, and I don't do it to appear a certain way to others. "As you think, so shall you become." That's why I do it. ------------------ "Honesty may be the best policy, but it's important to remember that, apparently, by elimination, dishonesty is the second best policy. Second is not all that bad." -George Carlin IP: 24.160.253.153 |
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posted 03-04-2002 08:53 PM
One could always say something to the effect of:"my mom just died, I'm going broke, my car just broke down and my cat is sick ... but other than that, I'm absolutely walking on sunshine!" IP: 207.73.73.136 |
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posted 03-04-2002 09:40 PM
quote: Originally posted by galactus: Damn, I'm getting scared. I'm starting to agree with Wyldfire.She said pretty much what I was thinking. It's not how bad you're doing, it's how you're handling it. Twelve years ago, I went through some of the worst sh!t any human being should ever have to endure, and it hit me hard, but I realized this was the hand life dealt me. I could be angry and act like a victim, or see it as an opportunity to improve as a person. I wanted to look back on that time as an old man and know that I had done my best to enjoy life to the fullest. No regrets. I don't always handle things in the best manner, but I usually come to my senses pretty quick, because I refuse to let life beat me down. I'm not delusional, and I don't do it to appear a certain way to others. "As you think, so shall you become." That's why I do it.
galactus...you've probable actually agreed with me most of the time but got caught up in all the fussing and fighting. Most of the time what I have to say is pretty similar to what the guys say. You've probably just only been noticing the things I post that go against the band wagon.
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posted 03-05-2002 10:04 AM
Y'know, there are 6 billion people in the world.Odds are, you aren't the worst off among them. Odds are, you aren't the best off among them. Since it's all relative, (seeing as how you ain't one of the two absolutes) why NOT have a good attitude? Took me years (too many) to learn that you can decide to be happy, no matter what the circumstances. OK, maybe if you're that worst-in-six-billion you can't, but again, the odds are you aren't. I realized when I was sweating a chick in my AFC days that everyone liked her because she was so cheerful and happy. I remember thinking, "Well, damn, why can't I be like that?" And later I realized I could. So hells yeah, it's going great. ------------------ Chicks don't think. Chicks feel. IP: 65.207.101.212 | |